People come into therapy for a variety of reasons. This could be to deal with current problems or to explore and resolve past hurts, traumas and difficult relationships. Sometimes people come to deal with a certain problem and soon realise that there may be other issues that also need addressing and talking through. If you are reading this you are already sensing that something may not be quite right and that you need someone to talk to about what may be happening for you, to help you look deeper within, a professional without judgement or bias who can help you see more clearly.
There are times in our lives when we feel helpless and overwhelmed and life can feel unmanageable and chaotic. This is a time when we need to reach out and speak with someone in confidence who is able to empathise, listen and help us to understand what might be happening for us. A person who can explore with us our thoughts, feelings and general anxieties about our past or present issues. This can be in relation to our behaviour, relationships, our health, work and social situations.
Many of us find it quite difficult and even overwhelming to understand on our own how we feel, what we would need to do and how to move forward. This is a time when counselling and psychotherapy can be helpful. A space where we can explore our experience and feelings in confidence, without judgment and at total ease with a trained professional.
Often our past history or present difficulties can get in the way of us being able to enjoy our life fully. Traumatic events can stop us from progressing forward. The loss of a loved one can feel devastating and overwhelming. Unable to move on, we find ourselves constantly grieving and unable to function. Relationships become chaotic, unfulfilling and at times destructive. We may become unwell both physically and mentally and find everyday life challenging. Therapy will help us to begin to understand and unravel what can feel like an impossible and hopeless situation.
In both my personal and professional experience I have found that when we don’t deal with or even understand our feelings and thoughts we can often find ourselves in very difficult places. Where we manifest our difficulties both mentally and physically through our everyday lives. We can start to feel mentally and emotionally unwell such as having constant low moods, unexplainable anxiety, uncontrollable anger, depression and obsessive behaviours. We can find ourselves physically ill with complaints such as stress, panic attacks, migraines, aches and pains and other debilitating bodily symptoms.
And then there are those of us who with or without awareness turn to self medication and various ways of forgetting or not dealing with the emotional turmoil. We turn to food and other substances such as drugs and alcohol for comfort and escapism. We use food as a way of control by eating very little or too much. Then there are other addictions such as gambling, sex and co-dependent relationships. This is where we avoid our problems by hiding and getting lost in other people’s lives and their problems. All are efforts to hide and get away from the pain and suffering we are faced with but often to no avail. Though such ways may provide temporary relief we soon find ourselves in a hopeless place once again.
“Anytime you’re feeling distracted, overwhelmed, stressed or overshadowed, there’s a tendency to escape. The state of denial is an escape. Distracting yourself through overwork is an escape. Altering your mind with drugs and alcohol is an escape. What they all have in common is absence of awareness. You numb or distract yourself under the false belief that unawareness will help you, while being too aware will only increase your pain. In reality, the opposite is true. Awareness heals because awareness is the only thing that is truly whole and healing is fundamentally a return to wholeness”. Deepak Chopra